20 Lessons I’ve Learned Since Leaving the Church

Not a very good path though…

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My unapologetic, Black self. 2016.

I haven’t been to church in over a year now, and I’ve been pondering how I should address what I’ve discovered along the way. If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you probably could’ve never guessed that I would end up here. I never imagined that I could exist outside the Church I once held so dear. But due to the routine state-sanctioned violence that is being inflicted on my people, and the inadequate response from the church (among other things), I have decided to remove myself entirely from a system that claims to value my soul, but fails to show up for my Black body. I’ll probably end up writing a book about this one day, but in the meantime, here are 20 things I’ve learned since leaving the church:

1. God is not a man.
2. There is no pre-determined path called “God’s will”…

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FOCUS ON: Lizz Konstantaras plays Lavenda on News Just In.

With over 15 years in showbiz, Lizz Njagah Konstantaras was once named one of the busiest and most hard working actresses in Kenya and understandably so with the titles director and producer also in her resume. Add the fact that she is now also mother of one beautiful baby boy, one can only wonder how does she manage to do it all.

Lizz has appeared and featured in many roles throughout her career most notable perhaps being the ones in the series Makutano Junction, Saints, Jane and Abel, How to Find a husband and mnets Tin…

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Bargain Box

trust me…it’s cool

Men too cry!

Need say more?

REAL RELATIONSHIPS

Better a broken relationship than a broken marriage,so do many people say. I beg to differ! Just for once! One thing is for sure though and I bet most if not all people will agree…any break up is just as painful regardless of it’s nature.
Who doesn’t know that even when friendship ends no matter the circumstance the involved parties always find it rough?Just like it is painful to lose a friend so is it much painful to lose a partner or a person with whom we shared love with.
In a normal intimate relationship there is a man and a woman involved and both are so much determined to make a haven out of their brewed love.In most cases they always dream of walking down the aisle and making a happy family later in their days.
All said and done, one thing is for sure not everything we plan…

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My name is …

I was at home back one christmas and a friend called. I was broke and bored. Was just killing time in my crib waiting for some darkness before I head out to catch up with some \’boys\’ and a pool game…and a hot mug. I do believe I was sad and anxious too. I just had too much going on at the moment and an opportunity to save me from myself was just not presenting itself. At that moment I also tried to avoid the girl I loved so much coz I hate being uncomfortable in my mind and people I love around me…I was so exposed.

I needed a job.

I was tired of freelancing. Was close to an year doing it. I did cool stuff. Worked at night, slept during the day…and my mom hated that. I love her and paps. My softspot. RIP paps. My mom aint tech, she loved my decision to do tech though. Blessed among many. Supported me in my interests all through…I did lotsa coding. Partial sometimes. I however managed to ship some. College management system, Business Site in html, Fueling automation, Desktop System were among my peak codes.

I hated web development, that\’s why I did just one.

My mom believed in getting a formal employment after school….

Patience

Have I ever said that Meru County is my home? Oh it is. The land of the proverbial a thousand hills. The reason am using my homeland in this piece is because of this:

“nyama ukaria ukamionia rumuri”

That is a Kimeru saying that warns against roasting meat you’ll eat with flame(s). I’m not the best of chefs. Actually, am terrible in cooking and especially stuff that other people will eat. Ask +Faith Gaspear   and she’ll tell you.  My other brother will not mince his words regarding my skills, so I prefer her still. heeh. So, What does the above mean?? PATIENCE.

Patience my guy.

Learning patience during html lessons

In scrabble, its just 12 points if at-all you don get the double/tripple letter stuff. I’m that guy who has to learn this the hard way. I once enrolled for an html class in codeacademy, because someone asked, and I agreed because I knew its easy and I was(and am) already a developer.

The bad part was, codeacademy has its own curriculum. I signed up and started html, aiming at finishing the next day. I started skipping stuff, almost everything anyway, untill I realized that my percentage was not going up.

I looked at my curriculum levels, topics and percentages and realized I was too far, and going too fast in the wrong direction. / just remembered casting crowns’ tune /

If I really wanted to achieve this, I have to do this their way, not mine.

Patience is conditional. I stand to be corrected though. In patience, you somehow submit. I did that. I fully submitted and started learning html, from the first line, to the end.

I later finished, and learnt both patience and html. Right now, I use this example in lotsa experiences. If I didn’t repeat that class, I still would finish but with blanks in the course outline. Same as roasting meat using tongues of flames. Best choma takes time, and is prepped on top of coals. It gets the best of heat, and it heats to the core. The potter does the same,(I had a pottery class in primary sch. I knw this. hehe) no hurry in drying the creation, or it’ll crack anytime.

It’s a clitché patience is a virtue but it’s so true. It takes discipline. I struggled and later reaped the benefits.

I’m in a position to say, redo something you’ve ever done. You’ll learn something new after you’re done.